I enthusiastically recommend this book as required reading for all men.
I just purchased it for Jeff and although he's only gotten through the first three chapters, it's given him greater insight into my heart, the way I'm wired, and how to feed my needs.
Here are a few points the author hammers home:
1. Even if your relationship is great, your mate likely has a fundamental insecurity about your love and when insecurity is triggered, she may respond in ways that confuse or dismay you until she feels reassured.
2. Women deal with multiple emotions from the past and present all the time and at the same time--and these can't be easily dismissed.
3. Your woman needs emotional security and closeness with you so much that she'll endure financial insecurity to get it.
4. Saying "I do" doesn't bring permanent emotional closure to the ever-persistent question: "Do you really love me?"
Jeff thought I was just another emotional basket case before flipping through these pages and understanding that many women are wired in the same way. As a result of this eye-opening insight, he's been incredible affirming of his love for me. Every night when he returns home I'm greeted with some variation of, "How is my beautiful Dearheart? The most beautiful woman in the world who I love more than anything?"
If I want to talk about a recurring issue for the upteenth time, he'll patiently listen and engage in the conversation, even though it's not his preference.
I just feel like this book did our marriage a lot of good...but of course, you'll need a spouse willing to take what he's learned from it and put it into action! :)
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